Oh, by the way! I have something to tell you about, that I think is kinda neat! I will be reading my Nov. 2 post, "The King of Fayetteville," on "Tales from the South" tomorrow night, at Little Rock! It will later go out on NPR and onto U tube. I will tell you the details about time, when I find out. I just hope I don't choke up somewhere. Ever since Peru, I just tend to do that. But its not a really emotional story, so maybe I can do it. Cross your fingers for me!
A guy who has never had a thought
about hitting a woman just never speaks of it. If he has ever told
you he would never hit you, he has that thought in his head, or he
has done it before.
If he tells you that regular-like, plan
on being a human punching bag after the wedding. Bust outta there!
Don't marry for looks; looks will
fade. (Barbara's the exception!) Character is what lasts forever.
Watching how he/she treats their
family gives you a good idea how you will be treated.
If he/she cheated with you, he/she
will cheat on you. But then again, we don't even need to consider
this one. You two deserve each other.
If you have gone over the top,
helping him/her, and been shown little appreciation, he/she has just
gotten into the habit of expecting that of you. He/she is taking you
for granted already. It will get much worse, but never gets better.
If the wild, bad boy/girl is the
only one who attracts you, your life will be one long, living
nightmare.
A woman can never change a bad
boy. It just gets worse.
If she expects her parents to go
into debt, or steal from their retirement fund, to finance her big
fancy wedding, she's selfish and self centered. Get away from her.
She'll break you, too, and then you'll be history, anyway.
If he/she cheats on you before the
wedding, it will increase tenfold after the wedding, when the hot
passion with you settles down some. Forgiving can, at best, only buy
you an insecure future. First, express your appreciation for having
given you this little warning sign, then turn and run. Before its too
late.
If you know he/she loves you more
than you love him/her, you won't be doing any favors by settling for
that. You WILL be doing everyone a big favor by easing out of it now.
If the spark is not there now, it never will be. A gentle letdown is
in order.
The dominant person will set the
pace, and by now you know where you fit in. If the dominant one is
not good with money, and goes through it like slicing hot butter, and
If you're not that dominant one, get out fast. Hell on earth is
headed your way. Best if both are good with money, but that might be
a little too much to ask.
When all your friends and family
say no, you'd do well to go - - fast! Remember, they're the ones who
love you the most.
Watch out for the "Hollywood
Syndrome." If he/she requires constant adoration, you won't be
able to hold up to those standards very long. And they'll be looking
for someone else, who will.
Beware of the control freak. If
he/she tells you they are the only one who loves you, and are always
trying to get you away from family and friends, break the door down
if you have to. But get away.
In our wedding photography
career, Barbara and I saw a few little tell-tale signs that always
prompted us to put a rush order on the pics!
If
the bride gripes a lot at her bridesmaids on the wedding day, just
remember. She picked them, like she picked you. Don't expect to fare
any better after the wedding. You might want to consider sneaking out
the back door.
If
the bride's Mama is a good Mama who has worked hard to bring this
thing together, and the bride gripes at HER on that day, she's
selfish and self-centered. These people don't stay married. Cut your
losses and get outta there, however you can.
If
you see, on the wedding day, that the wedding itself takes priority
over the groom, plan on always playing second fiddle, at best. Start
running, and never look back.
If
your new husband and your father get into a fist fight at the
reception, and yes, we have seen that, It's too late. But you might
wish to check about an annulment.
I'll be back on my story, next post. Thanks for your time, and your attention!
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