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A guy who has never had a thought about hitting a woman just never speaks of it. If he has ever told you he would never hit you, he has that thought in his head, or he has done it before.
If he tells you that regular-like, plan on being a human punching bag after the wedding. Bust outta there!
Don't marry for looks; looks will fade. (Barbara's the exception!) Character is what lasts forever.
Watching how he/she treats their family gives you a good idea how you will be treated.
If he/she cheated with you, he/she will cheat on you. But then again, we don't even need to consider this one. You two deserve each other.
If you have gone over the top, helping him/her, and been shown little appreciation, he/she has just gotten into the habit of expecting that of you. He/she is taking you for granted already. It will get much worse, but never gets better.
If the wild, bad boy/girl is the only one who attracts you, your life will be one long, living nightmare.
A woman can never change a bad boy. It just gets worse.
If she expects her parents to go into debt, or steal from their retirement fund, to finance her big fancy wedding, she's selfish and self centered. Get away from her. She'll break you, too, and then you'll be history, anyway.
If he/she cheats on you before the wedding, it will increase tenfold after the wedding, when the hot passion with you settles down some. Forgiving can, at best, only buy you an insecure future. First, express your appreciation for having given you this little warning sign, then turn and run. Before its too late.
If you know he/she loves you more than you love him/her, you won't be doing any favors by settling for that. You WILL be doing everyone a big favor by easing out of it now. If the spark is not there now, it never will be. A gentle letdown is in order.
The dominant person will set the pace, and by now you know where you fit in. If the dominant one is not good with money, and goes through it like slicing hot butter, and If you're not that dominant one, get out fast. Hell on earth is headed your way. Best if both are good with money, but that might be a little too much to ask.
When all your friends and family say no, you'd do well to go - - fast! Remember, they're the ones who love you the most.
Beware of the control freak. If he/she tells you they are the only one who loves you, and are always trying to get you away from family and friends, break the door down if you have to. But get gone.
If your new husband and your father get into a fist fight at the reception, and yes, we have seen that, It's too late. But you might wish to check about an annulment.
Watch out for the "Hollywood Syndrome." If he/she requires constant adoration, you won't be able to hold up to those standards very long. And they'll be looking for someone else, who will.
In our wedding photography career, Barbara and I saw a few little tell-tale signs that always prompted us to put a rush order on the pics!
If the bride gripes a lot at her bridesmaids on the wedding day, just remember. She picked them, like she picked you. Don't expect to fare any better after the wedding. You might want to consider sneaking out the back door.
If the bride's Mama is a good Mama who has worked hard to bring this thing together, and the bride gripes at HER on that day, she's selfish and self-centered. These people don't stay married. Cut your losses and get outta there, however you can.
If you see, on the wedding day, that the wedding itself takes priority over the groom, plan on always playing second fiddle, at best. Start running, and never look back.
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